One of the most common concerns with the "Mormon Church" are "long list" of "rules" we are "required" to follow.
If you couldn't tell by the amount of quotations, my previous sentence is rich with sarcasm.
First things first;
1. The Mormon Church is actually just a nickname given to us because we believe in additional Holy Scripture to the Bible namely The Book of Mormon. Our full name is The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints
2. Those rules are really just invitations from our Heavenly Father that if accepted will lead to a happier and higher quality of life.
3. Not one person is required to do anything in our church. One of the fundamentals of our belief is that from the beginning of our existance we have been given FREE AGENCY and have the ability to choose our own choice and path.
Lets talk about #2 and #3
Every human either is a parent or has parents. Parents when raising their children give them guidelines or rules to follow. With the exception of a few crazies out there, 98% of parents give out these rules for the benefit of the child. No one freaks out when a parent says "Don't touch the stove" or "Come home by midnight". These things make sense to us, but for some reason everyones panties get in a bunch when our Heavenly Father asks us to do a few things. I mean He did create us and give us every single great thing in our lives, I think He's entitled to asking for a little bit of obedience for our own benefit.
What are these so called rules that are so awful?
Here are the main ones that are nessesary in order to be worthy to enter one of our temples.
- No sex before marriage
- No Drinking, Smoking, or using Drugs
- Be honest with your fellow man
- Pay a full tithe
Lets talk about sex . . . baby. #SALTANDPEPPER
Pros - Feels good - (Literally the only Pro)
Cons - Sexually Transmitted Diseases (these are gross, uncomfortable, sometimes lifelong, and sometimes can kill you) and . .. Children born out of wedlock. Coming from a single parent home I know first hand how hard it is on a child to grow up without both parents there in a loving envorinment.
God asks us to wait till we are married to have sex because the most ideal environment to raise a child is with a Father and a Mother who are committed to each other for life and will be there when there children have needs. Because He loves all of His children perfectly it would make sense he would want the best for us.
But James . . . you can use contraceptives.
Really? Don't be ignorant. You know that isn't 100% and even if you don't have an STD or a prego baby's mama, you still have to deal with the what if's and and wonder until you or your girl takes a pregnancy test and or/ gets tested for STDs. #notworthit
In my opinion emphasis on Sex or Sexual activity in dating can be super detrimental to a long term relationship or a happy and healthy marriage.
The dating stage of a relationship is meant to do 2 things. 1 determine if this person is compatible enough to be completely committed to, and 2 develop a solid foundation of friendship that can last for your entire life and if so chosen; eternity.
When things become too physical too quickly its human nature to resort back to that intimacy rather than developing a strong friendship and bond through things like memories, experiences, and laughter.
Ever heard the song the wise man build his house upon a rock the foolish man built his house upon the sand?
Well physical intimacy is the sand and a strong friendship is the rock.
In marrige the rains WILL come down and the floods WILL come up. And coming first hand from someone who built his house on sand and then got married; The house on the sand washed away.
God is perfectly omnipotent. He know everything. Literally. More importantly than that, He loves us SOOOOO much. He only wants whats best for us and because of that asks us to live a certain way to prevent as much pain as possible while offering us the most amount of help. Its up to us to listen and to qualify ourselves for all the blessings God is waiting to give us.
And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedienceto that law upon which it is predicated.