Lets talk about Sex, baby!

Sunday, August 10, 2014

One of the most common concerns with the "Mormon Church" are "long list" of  "rules" we are "required" to follow.

If you couldn't tell by the amount of quotations, my previous sentence is rich with sarcasm.

First things first;

1. The Mormon Church is actually just a nickname given to us because we believe in additional Holy Scripture to the Bible namely The Book of Mormon. Our full name is The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints

2. Those rules are really just invitations from our Heavenly Father that if accepted will lead to a happier and higher quality of life.

3.  Not one person is required to do anything in our church. One of the fundamentals of our belief is that from the beginning of our existance we have been given FREE AGENCY and have the ability to choose our own choice and path.

Lets talk about #2 and #3

Every human either is a parent or has parents. Parents when raising their children give them guidelines or rules to follow. With the exception of a few crazies out there, 98% of parents give out these rules for the benefit of the child. No one freaks out when a parent says "Don't touch the stove" or "Come home by midnight". These things make sense to us, but for some reason everyones panties get in a bunch when our Heavenly Father asks us to do a few things. I mean He did create us and give us every single great thing in our lives, I think He's entitled to asking for a little bit of obedience for our own benefit.

What are these so called rules that are so awful?

Here are the main ones that are nessesary in order to be worthy to enter one of our temples.

- No sex before marriage
- No Drinking, Smoking, or using Drugs
- Be honest with your fellow man
- Pay a full tithe

Lets talk about sex . . . baby. #SALTANDPEPPER

Pros - Feels good - (Literally the only Pro)

Cons - Sexually Transmitted Diseases (these are gross, uncomfortable, sometimes lifelong, and sometimes can kill you) and . .. Children born out of wedlock. Coming from a single parent home I know first hand how hard it is on a child to grow up without both parents there in a loving envorinment.

God asks us to wait till we are married to have sex because the most ideal environment to raise a child is with a Father and a Mother who are committed to each other for life and will be there when there children have needs. Because He loves all of His children perfectly it would make sense he would want the best for us.

But James . . . you can use contraceptives.

Really? Don't be ignorant. You know that isn't 100% and even if you don't have an STD or a prego baby's mama, you still have to deal with the what if's and and wonder until you or your girl takes a pregnancy test and or/ gets tested for STDs. #notworthit

In my opinion emphasis on Sex or Sexual activity in dating can be super detrimental to a long term relationship or a happy and healthy marriage.

The dating stage of a relationship is meant to do 2 things. 1 determine if this person is compatible enough to be completely committed to, and 2 develop a solid foundation of friendship that can last for your entire life and if so chosen; eternity.

When things become too physical too quickly its human nature to resort back to that intimacy rather than developing a strong friendship and bond through things like memories, experiences, and laughter.

Ever heard the song the wise man build his house upon a rock the foolish man built his house upon the sand?

Well physical intimacy is the sand and a strong friendship is the rock.

In marrige the rains WILL come down and the floods WILL come up. And coming first hand from someone who built his house on sand and then got married; The house on the sand washed away.

God is perfectly omnipotent. He know everything. Literally. More importantly than that, He loves us SOOOOO much. He only wants whats best for us and because of that asks us to live a certain way to prevent as much pain as possible while offering us the most amount of help. Its up to us to listen and to qualify ourselves for all the blessings God is waiting to give us.

 20 There is a law, irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated—
 21 And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedienceto that law upon which it is predicated.


  1. "Feels good" is the only pro? Sex creates a bond and intimacy between two people that are in a relationship. There are also numerous health benefits. Just throwing that out there.

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  3. This was quite possibly, one of the stupidest things I have ever read.

    1. Totally agree. James you ever read any scientific information on the subject...ever?

    2. Totally agree. James you ever read any scientific information on the subject...ever?

  4. I'm sorry. I hope this doesn't completely offend you and maybe I shouldn't say anything at all but I'm going to.

    I must ask why you feel yourself qualified to speak on such a topic? The fact that you think the only pro of sex is that it feels good eliminates all credibility. And also blatantly exposes your lack of a healthy outlook on martial intimacy. Yes, sex can be fun and bring pleasure but it also creates a bond between spouses. When used appropriately it encourages real love and unity within a couple. A healthy sex life with a spouse can help eliminate a lot of small, superfluous problems. Not to mention the many health benefits of sex.

    I get that you're addressing the sex topic as a single person in the LDS faith, so you are focusing on the negatives of breaking the "rule" as you stated. Although you are right that waiting until marriage to have sex is best because you don't have to worry about STDs and unplanned pregnancy. That is not why the commandment is in place. We believe in personal revelation and that some things are right for some people and not for others but you should know that waiting to have sex in marriage isn't an "invitation to a happier and higher quality life". It is a real life commandment that is said in the scriptures to be held to the highest degree. The bond made in sex is strong and real and deliberately meant for within a marriage. Possibly look up chastity in the scriptures?

    I believe in a loving and merciful and forgiving God but I also know that it says in the scriptures, no unclean thing can dwell with God. I don't know where you have concluded that members of the church are required nothing. But you are gravely, sorely mistaken. The requirement is to keep clean and when we are not (which we literally cannot ourselves and that's why we have the Savior) we repent and let the atonement change us.

  5. Waiting until marriage dies my guarantee a connection or a good marriage, just as outside of marriage doesn't guarantee unhappiness.

    You dating the only pro is that it feels good? Obviously you have a lot to learn young man.


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